You've tried to fix it...
The same fight keeps coming back...

Goodfellow Therapy

If something has to change, or you're not sure you can keep going, you're in the right place.

Somatic, depth-based coaching for couples and individuals in crisis, rupture, or discernment.

As seen on TEDx · 18+ Years Experience · BA Psychology, UBC

You're in the right place if...

You keep having the same fight and nothing ever fully resolvesThe closeness is gone, and you're not sure how to find your way back to each otherYou've tried couples therapy, but it stayed on the surface — or you hit a ceilingOne of you is already saying 'I'm done,' and the other isn't ready to let goYou know something from your past is driving your reactions, but you can't stop itOr you're not sure whether to stay or go, and you need a safe place to find out

What clients say

Hi, I'm Meris

I built this work because I lived the hard version of it firstI know what it’s like to carry stories that aren’t fully yours. To react in ways you don’t understand. To love someone and still feel like you’re speaking different languages.
My path into this work was not a straight line. It was a long reckoning with the weight of my own ancestral stories -- the grief, the fear, the patterns I didn’t choose but inherited. And it was in sitting with all of that, doing the deep work, that I found what actually moves the stuck places: not insight alone, but the body, the breath, the full truth of the
emotional experience, witnessed with care.
I’ve spent over 18 years in mental health support work. I hold a BA in Psychology from UBC and have spent two decades as a Transformative Listening practitioner. I’m experienced in Polyvagal theory, EFT, IFS, and somatic and play-based emotive work — including 17 years of Clown and Biokinetic Release. It is some of the most powerful emotional expression work I know.
I work with couples, individuals, and polycules. I am poly and kink literate, LGBTQIA2S+ affirming, trauma-informed, and able to offer neurodivergent-affirming coaching and life-skills support for ADHD/AuDHD.
Most of all, I am someone who has done this work. Not as a practitioner observing from the outside — but as a human being who chose to go toward the hard things instead of around them. That is the invitation I extend to every person I work with.

The Clearing - As Seen on TEDx Stage

A Journey From Grief to Forgiveness

The Clearing describes both the process of emotional clearing between two people, and the expansiveness of reaching a clearing in a forest, a place where light shines through into a dark place. It explores, through dance and embodied expression, the journey from grief to empathy, from rage and betrayal to forgiveness. Somatic processing and using movement to release emotion is one of the foundations of our practice together.

My Approach

Most couples therapy keeps you in your heads. This work goes underneath.If you’ve already done therapy, and you still keep hitting the same wall, it’s not because you didn’t try hard
enough. It’s because most approaches work at the level of behaviour and communication, without touching what’s
driving it.
Underneath every conflict loop is a nervous system doing its best to protect you. Underneath every withdrawal is an
early wound that never got witnessed. When we get to that layer, things actually shift.ROOTS | Regulate and OrientBefore anything else, we lower the temperature of the nervous system.
You learn to notice the moment
activation starts, interrupt escalation before it takes over, and return to your body. We also look at your origin story
as a couple -- why you chose each other, what brought you here, and what that still means.RELATE | Rebuild Communication SafetyYou’ll learn to have the conversations you’ve been avoiding.
We build the ground rules and skills that make hard talks safer. How to name what you need without attack. How to listen without armouring. How to stay in the room when it gets uncomfortable. Creating rules of engagement builds communication safety.REPAIR | Find the RootHere we find what’s actually driving the loop. We look at your triggers, your family patterns, the inner child needs underneath your reactions. You’ll receive education in Polyvagal theory and learn somatic practices for sharing emotional states and holding space for each other.BRAVE | Deepen into IntimacyFor couples who have moved through the crisis and are ready to go deeper: guided sessions in Transformative Listening, shadow work, witnessed play dyads. Connection that is honest, embodied, and alive.

What You Can Expect To Gain

By the time we’re done, couples typically experience:Less escalation, and faster repair when rupture does happenA shared language for needs, limits, and agreementsMore emotional safety in difficult conversationsA real understanding of what drives the pattern — and what to do when it firesMore secure connection that doesn't depend on over-giving or monitoringClarity, whether that means choosing the relationship fully, or leaving it with integrity

How We Work Together

Every client starts with a conversation. From there, we find the right container for where you are

START HERE: Free Discovery Call — 15 minutesThis is a real conversation to find out if this is the right fit.
We'll briefly talk through where things are, what you've tried, and what you're hoping for. If I'm the right person for
this, I'll tell you exactly how I'd suggest we work together.
Book directly below. No form to fill out first.

RELATIONSHIP TRIAGE SESSION — 60 or 90 minutesThis is first aid for your relationship.
We assess the current landscape, identify your core conflict loop, and you leave with immediate regulation tools and
a clear map for what comes next. Most clients say this single session shifts something that months of other therapy
hadn't moved.
Ideal for: couples who need to do something right now, or individuals in acute relational distress.
Investment: available on request.

WEEKLY SESSIONS — OngoingSteady, building work over time.
We meet weekly and move through the Brave Intimacy framework at a pace that allows for real integration. Most
clients see meaningful change within 4–8 sessions. Packages available for couples and individuals.
Ideal for: those who want depth and continuity without the intensity of an immersive format.
Investment: packages available on inquiry.

REPAIR INTENSIVE — 2 to 4 consecutive daysThis is the container that changes things.
We spend 2–4 consecutive days together working through your core relational patterns, moving at the speed of real
change instead of waiting a week between sessions. This is immersive. This is deep. And this is where the work that
has felt impossible becomes possible.
The intensive is right for you if:
• You're in crisis and need something more than weekly appointments
• You've been in therapy and hit a ceiling
• One or both of you is considering separation
• You need to get clear — stay or go — with support
• You want to give this relationship everything before you make a decision
Investment varies by length. Inquiry required. Availability is limited.

Certifications and Credentials• 18 plus years as an addictions and mental health support worker
• BA in Psychology (UBC)
• 20 years as a Transformative Listening practitioner
• 17 years developing somatic and play-based emotive skills through Clown and Biokinetic Release
• 15 years in group conflict mediation and facilitation
• Training in Polyvagal theory, EFT, IFS, and clinical psychology-informed approaches
• Poly and kink literate with a trauma informed lens
•Neurodiverse and able to offer accommodations and coaching in life-skills and general coping strategies for ADHD/AuDHD
• LGBTQIA2S+ plus aligned and affirming

You Don't Have To Figure This Out Alone

And you don’t have to know exactly what you need before you reach outIf you’re reading this at 11pm after a fight, or sitting in the quiet place wondering whether this relationship still has a
future, or trying to hold it together while everything in you is exhausted — that moment is exactly the right moment to
reach out.
You don’t need to have it figured out. You don’t need to know the right words. You just need to take one step.
The work begins the moment you decide you’re done waiting for it to get better on its own.

15 minutes, no commitment

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GOODFELLOW THERAPY
Somatic Coaching for Couples & Individuals
Vancouver, BC — Online Worldwide

Work with Me
Discovery Call (Free)
Relationship Triage Session
Weekly Sessions
Repair Intensives

Connect
Instagram: @merisgoodfellow
Email: [email protected]

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