The Clearing - As Seen on TEDx Stage

A Journey From Grief to Forgiveness

The Clearing describes both the process of emotional clearing between two people, and the expansiveness of reaching a clearing in a forest, a place where light shines through into a dark place. It explores, through dance and embodied expression, the journey from grief to empathy, from rage and betrayal to forgiveness. Somatic processing and using movement to release emotion is one of the foundations of our practice together.HOW YOU WORK WITH MEMost clients begin with a 15 minute Discovery Call to determine if I'm the right fit for you, or move directly to a 60 or 90 minute Relationship Triage Call, where we assess the current landscape, identify your main conflict loop, and establish immediate regulation tools and next steps. Think of it like a First Aid session that will set you on the path to repair.CONTAINERSOption 1: You can continue in session-based work, as neededOption 2: Choose a package of weekly sessions to build momentum, stabilize repair, and more consistently deepen intimacy over time.Option 3: Engage in a Repair Intensive, where we spend 2-4 consecutive days together working through your core issues, where I have your back the whole time, and we move towards collaboratively stabilizing the relationship.WHO I SUPPORTI work with couples, polycules, and individuals in moments of relationship transition, questioning, or crisis.. If you are in a discernment period of deciding whether or not the relationship should continue, I can help provide an outside perspective on what may be going on, and better resource your toolkit to navigate the sometimes windy road that is love and relating. Full disclosure, this may not mean that all relationships survive transitional moments. If that is the case, I will support all members of the connection through a respectful, mutual, caring passage.

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What I Offer

My primary area of focus is working to support partnerships in crisis or rupture.Intimacy grows when the nervous system feels safe, but often the road to true intimacy is fraught with blind spots, coping mechanisms, and personal narratives. I support you in moving from coping strategies that get in your way, to courageous self-exposure, and values-based discernment, where you can choose your relationship as your full, accepted self. I also coach couples, individuals, and polycules in active listening and space-holding techniques which are the requisite for true intimacy.My main method of working with couples is through the Transformative Listening Technique, which is a process that couples can bring home to use with one another, even without external guidance. We use this in session, and I teach you how to use it with one another, for increased emotional expression, witnessing, closeness, and healing.If you are an individual seeking more general support sessions, feel free to book a Discovery Call, and we can discuss the ways in which I can support you!You don’t have to do it alone. I’ve got you. This is Brave Work.

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Brave Intimacy

HOW IT WORKS
A four pillar framework for regulated truth, communication safety, intimacy deepening, and lasting repair.ROOTS | Regulate and Orient to Self and Relational StewardshipWe start by lowering the temperature in your nervous system and defusing the acute conflict. You learn how to notice activation early, interrupt escalation, and return to your body so you can stay present. We work with story to bring the relationship origins to life, and remind ourselves why we are here. This creates the foundation for meaningful communication.RELATE | Rebuild Communication SafetyNext, we build the skills and set communication ground rules that make hard conversations safer. This can include conflict mediation, agreements for how you speak and listen, and practices that restore witnessing.
You learn how to express needs without attack and how to listen without defence.REPAIR | Reveal the Pattern and Root Cause
Here we identify what is actually driving the loop. We explore triggers, family-of-origin patterns, and the inner child needs underneath the reactions. You receive education on Polyvagal theory and somatic practices for sharing emotional states and holding space for each other, and build tolerance for both feeling and witnessing vulnerable sharing.BRAVE | Deepen Intimacy Through TruthThis is the deepening practice of intimacy, for relationships seeking to deepen, and that are beyond the crisis point. We use guided sessions in Transformational Listening, shadow work clearing practices, and witnessed play dyads to build connection that is honest, alive, joyful, and sustainable. This involves courageous ownership of your own participation in relational patterns, and deep self-advocacy. You learn courageous, playful, embodied connection.What You Can Expect to GainCouples• Less escalation and faster repair after rupture
• Clearer language for needs, boundaries, and agreements
• More emotional safety and trust in difficult conversations
• A deeper understanding of triggers and the root pattern underneath them, and how to differentiate story from reality
• More secure connection and intimacy that does not rely on over-giving or monitoring
• Support through discernment with clarity and self respectIndividuals• Greater awareness of your narratives and blind spots
• Increased toolkit for self-regulation and life-skill management
• Deeper relationship with self
• Reframing of the stories that keep you stuck

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Certifications and Credentials• 18 plus years as an addictions and mental health support worker
• BA in Psychology (UBC)
• 20 years as a Transformative Listening practitioner
• 17 years developing somatic and play-based emotive skills through Clown and Biokinetic Release
• 15 years in group conflict mediation and facilitation
• Training in Polyvagal theory, EFT, IFS, and clinical psychology-informed approaches
• Poly and kink literate with a trauma informed lens
•Neurodiverse and able to offer accommodations and coaching in life-skills and general coping strategies for ADHD/AuDHD
• LGBTQIA2S+ plus aligned and affirming

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